Ep 1 The Three Step Process

When you want to achieve something in your life, you don't have to try harder, develop more discipline or make sacrifices. 

There's another way that's gentler where you can relax into your greatness as it begins to reveal itself to everyone around you.

It's a method that's been around for over 1000 years and has helped countless others achieve what they want in life.

Listen in to hear the introduction and stay tuned for more episodes where we will dive into this fascinating subject.

Transcript

  And the way that we can do this is a method that's thousands of years old, and not only will it benefit you, it will benefit everyone around you. 

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Welcome to another episode  of Super Superstar. This show is about uncovering your superstar that exists within you. It is, in my opinion, it is your soul. It is your soul that is trying to shine brighter,  be its natural brilliant self, but we keep covering it up. We cover it up with our fears, with our, with our, uh, conditioning, with our habits.

With, uh, our likes and our dislikes, and because of that, our real selves, our innate souls  never have a chance to, to shine. And the way that we can do this is a method that's thousands of years old.  It's taken from, uh, a Buddhist approach to life,  and  it can be applied  not just in spirituality, but in everyday life, and not only will it benefit you, it will benefit everyone around you. 

Now, if you're like me, and I know you are because you're a human being, if you're like me, you let your emotions really get the best of you a lot of the time,  and sometimes it gets the worst of you. And it's not always a super negative happening or occurrence.  I'm not talking about letting your anger get the best of you, and take control of a situation and mess it up even more than it is already messed up.

I'm talking about  all of our emotions. When we get carried away with joy, Which actually can be a damaging thing  um And i'll I guess i'll just quickly mention Because I know you're thinking right now. How can getting carried away with joy be a damaging thing? It's when we become addicted to or reliant on Feeling that joy All the time that it begins to control our lives  just as Anger,  although it can be a good thing when used in the right You Circumstances  can obviously become really destructive in our lives.

So those are two opposite sides of emotions. There's the joy and there's the anger. Both are emotions.  Both have a possibility to control your life. And when your emotions are controlling your life,  then you're not in control of your life. Your emotions are. Do I have to tell you that's not a good thing?

It's not a good thing. And you're really not getting the dust out of your life when, when that's happening.  On the flip side, we don't want to  become stoic and emotionless and refuse to give into our feelings  and become like robots,  just cutting ourselves off from all emotions. It's Obviously, that's not  very helpful to living a full, beautiful life that benefits everyone around us.

So in today's episode, I'm going to go over just the briefly,  because we can talk about this for  days and months and probably years to come. This is the outline, and it sounds insanely simple. But it's also difficult to do.  The good news is the more you practice it, the easier it gets, but yes, you have to practice it in every moment that you can. 

So the three steps are when you feel an emotion, say you're reacting to something that's just happened to you, or that's been said to you.  The first step is to become aware of the emotion that you're feeling. And you know, sometimes that takes practice because not everyone. is comfortable with feeling their emotions.

So, you know, if this is, this step is the only step that you master, then good for you, because from there, you're going to move on to even better things.  So,  when you feel the emotion,  when you feel yourself reacting to something that's been said to you or that's happened to you, I want you to say in your head, stop.

Stop. Stop, and that will give you a chance to pause  and separate from the emotion, and you can separate from the emotion by naming the emotion.  You know, when I practice this, I  try to see myself separately. So if someone, um, if someone bumps into me, knocks me down, or almost knocks me down, I'll say to myself,  Well, first I'll feel the anger  and I'll probably think, oh, what a jerk, what a  blank, blank, blank. 

And then I'll catch myself, I'll say stop, and I'll say, oh, wow, I am feeling really angry right now. And just by doing that, just by naming it, you can actually reduce the intensity of the emotion.  Because you're not caught up in the emotion. You're not immersed in it. You're not immersed in a bath of anger.

You're watching it.  You're observing it. And so  you name it. After you name it, you try to look at the big picture.  What is the big picture here? What is actually happening? Did that person who knocked me over do so because they were running away from? From a murderer, like someone with a knife in their hand, were they like, running for their life?

Then, if so, it's kind of excusable that they knocked me over, and suddenly I become much more understanding and forgiving. I'm also gonna try to get myself out of that situation as fast as possible.  So become aware of what is happening. These are all extreme examples, but we'll get into more everyday examples after.

And then the third step. Okay. So the first step is  separate yourself from the emotion. And you can do this by just naming the emotion.  The second step is to get the big picture, get a clear idea of what's actually happening around you.  The third step, and arguably, arguably, this is the most difficult  is you let it go. 

And how do you let it go? I mean, there's so many methods and we're going to get into these, but one way to let it go is to know that becoming even more emotionally overwhelmed or  bathed in emotion, it does not help the situation. Of course, sometimes we want to stay immersed in our emotions because it feels good.

And certain circumstances, that's a great thing to do for a short while. However,  the shorter the time that you can be overrun by your emotions, the more you're actually going to enjoy life.  I know that sounds insane. I know that sounds crazy. But it's true.  So, you have to let it go. You have to let go of the outcome.

You have to let go of staying, staying immersed in the emotion and just continue to watch what is actually happening around me.  And from that point, that is the point where you can begin to take control of how you react and what the outcome of the situation is. And the more you practice this, and the more you're willing to let go of whatever happens, the wiser you'll become, the more peaceful you'll become, the happier you'll become, the more successful you'll become. 

How does that sound? It sounds so simple, but so difficult, doesn't it?  That's because it is. So these three steps, three simple steps, that Are a lot. I know that. But I also promise you that the more you practice them, the easier this is going to get.  You, you can practice while you're washing the dishes or while you're in the shower.

You know, when you're in the shower, you may think, oh, this feels so amazing. But then say to yourself, stop. Name the emotion.  I feel very happy right now. I feel very relaxed right now. Why not? Look at the big picture. You Oh, I feel really happy right now because I had a stressful day and this hot or warm water and, and the nice smelling soap is  just, um, feeling incredible.

What a, what a difference from everything else I went through today. And  then you let it go  and you, you carry on,  but you carry on with an awareness. Now, you're not carrying on completely immersed  in the emotion. And that way you probably won't lose track of time and all the rest of it.  Okay. That's all I'm going to talk about right now. 

And I like doing shorter episodes, not half an hour episodes, but I think for this one, it was necessary to try to begin to explain this method, this method, this thousands of years old that has been used by,  by people to honestly, to, to help them. gain enlightenment to become highly enlightened people and compassionate people and happy people and successful people all  through this  simple three step process.

Again, I don't feel I need to say this, but I'm going to say it anyways. This three part process  is not the only thing you need to do in your, in your life. Of course, you need to sleep well, you need to eat well, you need to  Exercise you need to, you know, do other good things for yourself.  But if you use this approach to your everyday activities and your everyday thoughts, then I guarantee you  your life will get better and stronger and more beautiful.

So that's all  I have to say for today. Don't forget, you are a super superstar. 

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